Human beings can tell you one thing and mean exactly the opposite. Nowhere can this end up causing more pain and disappointment than in romance where raw feelings are laid bare.
Men, especially, stand accused of using lies and pretence to use women and dump them at will. It can even end up worse where women get trapped in abusive marriages.
But contrary to popular belief, men do not change and it is possible with a keen eye to form a profile of what a man really is like deep down.
Here below are things to look out for:
Wife Batterer
Watch out for impatience when things do not happen in a certain way or his way and within a certain time. This kind of man takes pleasure from running over dogs and other small animals when driving.
He also finds time to chase down animals that he can’t stand like cats.
He usually treats waiters, shop attendants, strangers with an unwarranted level of hostility and suspicion. This is an emotional weakness that eventually boils over into violence against you, your future children and other unfortunate people who may happen to be in the cross hairs of his temper.
The serious thing is that this problem is serial and even if you make up after an abusive incident, he will still do it again.
Mr Obsessive
He insists on knowing where you are all the time and who you are with. This is the kind of man who will steal into your phone details and confront you over certain messages or calls.
He insists on knowing where you are all the time and who you are with. This is the kind of man who will steal into your phone details and confront you over certain messages or calls.
This man does not entertain you going to visit even your mother overnight and may make pestering phone calls whenever you are not together.
This weakness, while not necessarily violent, is incredibly tiring, distracting and often puts you at odds with family and friends who will definitely find your man an undesirable company.
He may lavish you with gifts and see to your every need. But, be warned; it is impossible to completely please him – unless, of course, you do not mind being a slave.
The Dreamer
His ideas are lofty; he makes you see yourself as a future queen. For instance, he may tell you how he will be heading abroad for greener pastures and how both of you will be successful there.
Or how he has a big project coming up that will put your lives in the green zone forever. Unfortunately for the single and searching lady, this is the kind of man you will meet for about 70 per cent of the time; this variety live in dreamland but in practice, they do nothing useful or sustainable to actualize their dreams.
They are also incredibly well-spoken and convincing. While they are otherwise good men with good taste and uplifting words, they are a waste of space. If you marry one of these, you will be on your own as far as the bills are concerned for ever.
Cautious Man
This one plays safe at every turn, he will not implicate himself easily. Every new idea is carefully investigated, analysed and measured on very stringent metrics - sometimes for days on end, until you get vexed.
He is very careful in his grooming and has impeccable manners. His opinions are well-measured and useful. Because of his thorough perspective, such a man may come across as boring and fussy. But this is a rare diamond, the kind to love.
He is durable, reliable and his careful nature takes him far in life. He is also unlikely to hurt you and he deals with you calmly and with utmost reflection.
The Procrastinator
If anyone is likely to ever end up poor among all men, it is the procrastinator. Apart from the Cautious Man, all the above are likely to be in this group as well. It’s an inherent laziness, an inability to act unless pushed to the limit. Great opportunities are lost this way.
You will spot him easily; sitting pretty watching TV while promising to fix the light bulb which then stays like that for days on end. He even fails to act on routine matters like having his beard cut because of this same laziness.
The other way to identify him is his deep well of excuses. He offers all sorts of reasons why things will not work as an escape from responsibility.
He is scruffy too, rarely irons his clothes, polishes his shoes and may occasionally even not take a bath or brush his teeth. Marry one of these and you will be so poor and hungry you will not believe it.
The Workaholic
He is the other twin of Mr Cautious but this one more inclined to physical tasks. He is always looking for something to do and may even offer to cook for the family.
He is loath to just sit around and usually does all sorts of jobs around the house just to be busy. If you can complement his energy with some brains, you will have a productive life together.
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